Ended a 13 year friendship today

Theeoldways37 Created Apr 14, 2025 17:58 by Theeoldways37 -
11 Comments

He was very passive aggressive, but he amped it up last night.
Run down of all the things he has done to me and I forgave but no more...
1, when we were together cheated on me
2, after we split he asked me to marry him infront of my work colleagues but then when I wanted to plan the wedding he got cold feet, turns out he didn't really want to.
3, backhanded comments on my tattoos, calling me ugly etc but laughing it of.
4, offering to go food shopping for me while I work late then passively aggressively punishing me for taking him up on his offer and trying g to make me feel like I've done something wrong.
5, last night he offered to call an uber for me i accepted, he then phoned me back saying the car had arrived I said it hadn't and he shouted at me, turns out he kept me outside of work for ages because he never actually called one. I called my own and went home.
Today I told him to f**k of out of the house, and go find somewhere else to live.

This topic has 11 comments

Theeoldways37

Apr 14, 2025 18:02

He has done lots more but it's 13 years of stuff that would be a book.

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Apr 14, 2025 18:11

You have to do what is best for yourself. There is no point in letting someone else run your life into the ground.

Enjoy your freedom and let it take you to where you desire.

Theeoldways37

Apr 14, 2025 18:12

❤️ thankyou

Grumman, Inc.

Apr 15, 2025 00:28

How the hell did you make it to 13 years after all that?

Psychopatrish

Apr 15, 2025 03:23

Sounds like you ended a 13 year trauma bond.

Good on you, Ways. You're too smart and beautiful to tolerate anything less than extraordinary excellence.

Onward and upward Sis. ⬆️

Theeoldways37

Apr 15, 2025 05:09

@grumman. Good question, he would do nice things go above and beyond so when he did the s**tty things I was like well now I can't complain because he did this nice thing for me, it's weird but it is what it is.

Theeoldways37

Apr 15, 2025 05:11

@psychopartrish. That's exactly what that was. And thankyou.

GoblinsGrin

Apr 15, 2025 07:07

You are definitely better off, I agree it sounds more like a trauma bond that he liked having the control of by gaslighting you and setting you up and then love bombing you.. You definitely deserve better than that, and stand firm on your decision! Healing hurts and is usually messy, but you will be so glad of it when you find yourself on the other side of it, and having a new sort of peace settle into your life.. You’ve got this!!