Mr Nightnews

Apr 22, 2025 12:58

Way to go!

If in doubt or for more support try an #ai https://trytherabot.com/

(Everyone on here probably has a therapist, has had one in the past, needs one urgently now lol!)

💐

TheRaven29

Apr 22, 2025 13:39

(Lol) thanks Mr. Night yea, my therapist says I'm doing well from when I first started but I guess feeling stuck is normal? She says I still suffer from trauma but I'm doing better at not letting it define me

Lexi_poo

Apr 22, 2025 13:58

Humans are goal orientated creatures, this is why mental health issues with things like depression and anxiety do not exist in tribe like cultures, when you're busy all day trying to survive your mind is occupied. So in a 1st world modern country we need to set our self some small and large goals so you're always looking forward and moving towards something.

Grumman, Inc.

Apr 22, 2025 16:34

I think it’s important to remember that media depictions of romance and relationships are wholly unrealistic and create crazy expectations for a lot of people. Relationships are so much more mundane, they take work even in the best of circumstances, and they’re all unique. I get that when you’re lonely, seeing some semblance of a thing you wish you were experiencing makes you long for it and assume that everyone who has a partner must be in bliss while you’re miserable. Let me assure that that is not the case. Even we who do have long term partners are subject to these FOMO effects. I’m married with an 8-month old daughter and I get almost no intimacy right now. It’s pretty frustrating, and then I see media depictions of young couples who are in the throes of passion that often come with a new relationship or brief fling and I say, why is that not happening for me with the woman I love? Well, it’s because we’ve been together for many years and we have other more pressing priorities right now than to spend days in bed making love or whatever these fictional couples who apparently don’t have jobs or responsibilities do. I have to remind myself that those things are fictional and that if a movie ever really showed the day-to-day events of a well-worn long term relationship, it would be pretty fücking boring for the viewer.

Just a little perspective for you, hope it helps.

TheRaven29

Apr 22, 2025 17:32

Thank you and I know they're not real it's just fun to day dream. I know relationships take work and determination as well spice here and there with bit of romance but I worry about failing to have my relationship fail because my mom was married twice and I told myself I can't let that happen to me not saying it's a bad thing but yeah I just want to make sure the person I end up with isn't wanting to get married because we have been told we have to. I want someone who just enjoys being with me and we can just enjoy each other and just be happy but being happy with ourselves too and work hard together and separately

Slothpenguin

Apr 22, 2025 17:47

Never compare your life with other people's, they only show you the highlights and the happy times, no one shows photos of themselves unshowered, screaming kids and their partner sleeping in the sofa as they fell out.
You'll find many people would love your life, no ties, job that's not awful and freedom to do what you want.
Find interests you want to learn about or do, that's how you find people and gain the life you seem to look for. Trust me, you have plenty of time left to find who you want to be, im.much older and don't panic how much time has passed as I still have tofay.

The Jaypril Fool

Apr 22, 2025 18:18

Lionel Richie or Adele?

Ryan Razorwire

Apr 22, 2025 18:46

My coworker told me he and his baby momma haven't had s*x in 10 months. He's 23 with a 1 year old daughter. He's also and extreme extreme slob. Told me there's cat piss in their bed.