Deleted User

Sep 21, 2014 12:36

Its largely pointless to send messages....

Deleted User

Sep 21, 2014 12:39

I personally wouldn't send a wink.

You win some and you lose some. Perhaps she was only online for a short time and was unable to read your message.

Deleted User

Sep 21, 2014 12:40

i feel that some people can be abit shy of sending the first message so if u get a wink at least say hi to them what you got to lose if some one ever sent me a wink i would say hi and a little random msg just to break the ice a bit see what happens

AlexMetal

Sep 21, 2014 12:42

it's not about why she didnt reply, as you say some you win some you lose.

coz yeah, it's largely pointless,.. could alomst say that about replying to some people in general but thats off topic

Am just curious what everyone else thinks of winks.

AlexMetal

Sep 21, 2014 12:44

yes 'thrashercol82... i think winks might acutally have more uses to people.
a message is nice but that first one is generally just hi anyway, so its just nice. rarely makes much difference in the end

Deleted User

Sep 21, 2014 12:46

true alex dude i always find it hard to send a message that isnt just a hi i like randomness in messages but it is a lazy way of saying hi i guess some times you just have to bite the bullet and just jump in there

Deleted User

Sep 21, 2014 12:59

Winks just annoyed me after a while, I had to disable them... lol I would get like 20 a day, and it got to be a bother. To me it just seems like a way for people to say "hey you're hot but i'm too lazy to have a real conversation with you, have a nice day" lol

I enjoy messages from people that aren't just one or two words. If I get a message saying "Hey" or "how are you?" I generally don't answer them... Maybe that's a bitch thing on my part, but I like seeing someone can hold a conversation and interest me enough to want to be their friend ect.

countryboy-devin

Sep 21, 2014 13:04

girls are amazing yes we lose and win some but if there wasn't any girls what would us boys do probably kill each other

Deleted User

Sep 21, 2014 13:16

AlexMetal

Sep 21, 2014 13:23

Zombie poptarts - well if your getting 20 winks a day I can see that getting annoying and difficult to distinguish who is worth talking to. So I'll give you that, and guess this is prob why others disable winks...
Maybe they were saying that, 'like you but can't be bothered' may be they like you and would but have other reasons why they dont want to start a relationship. Am sure I've done it, just coz someone's in a different country dont mean I dont like them.
His when I look at someone and dont even wink then I think there is something wrong. I'll bother doing everything if the persons worth it
And not bitch really, but maybe you could give them a chance to warm up, some are just shy or dont expect you to reply in the first place

Demoness Sabriel

Sep 21, 2014 13:31

If I send a wink which I do rarely I usually want to see if they are brave enough to talk to me even if it's a hi but I usually read their profile first to see if they actually respond to them if I don't see anything about a wink means it's ok

AlexMetal

Sep 21, 2014 13:36

So your the type to message first not wink generally.

Yes, half the time there's no mention of winks or not on a profile but a lot of the time they do mention shyness. So then just easing into a convo beginning with a wink makes sense.
Jumping in like you know the person can feel intrusive to some sometimes

Deleted User

Sep 21, 2014 13:37

A woman sent me a wink, so i sent her wink back and then she winked me agian. So i left a commont on her photo and she then spoke to me, then we went for drink and now friends on facebook.

AlexMetal

Sep 21, 2014 13:45

Bigdaddy - thanks. That's the best proof so far... Just need a married couple now haha

I spouse in the end we all want someone who thinks the same. Weather that's starts with a wink or message is just how that person converses and what said person looks for back

Demoness Sabriel

Sep 21, 2014 14:04

Yes Alex and you haven't even responded to my message I left for you

Deleted User

Sep 21, 2014 14:56

I love winks. Im too lazy to send a message. And i dont have anything clever to say. If the girl is interested back she winks back or messages me.

Sweet_Underooz

Sep 21, 2014 15:23

dont care about a wink...wont get no love from me .

Deleted User

Sep 21, 2014 15:28

I get winks but rarely return them. I only wink at guys I'm already talking to...in a joking manner. They bothered me at first, seem a little pervy, but this site's oozing with creepy.

Deleted User

Sep 21, 2014 15:36

Well.. I would reply to winks and messages, especially well thought out messages.

But.. the thing with winks vs messages though, is that if you get a message then, assuming that they've read your profile and decide to mention common interests and stuff in their message, there's a lot more to respond to than just a wink to which I'd say something like "How, how are you?" and that's it and they'd probably say something like "Good and you?" and you might say something similar and then what? It doesn't leave you with a lot to talk about.

My experience tells me that if you send a wink, the conversation will die out pretty soon if the other person responds to it anyway, come to think of it "Hello, how are you?" is a pretty poor conversation starter in general, it's just small talk and it gets old pretty soon.

Anyway, back on topic, I do see where you're coming from, why put so much effort into writing someone a well thought out message, if they're not gonna at least reply to it anyway? Your effort goes without reward and without results and it can feel very discouraging.

Deleted User

Sep 21, 2014 15:37

yeah i got giant pikachu at a carnival stalking me, f**king perv creep.

Demoness Sabriel

Sep 21, 2014 15:40

*is hiding in big daddys pikachu*

ComatoseAngel ♥Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ♥

Sep 21, 2014 22:57

Sorry Alex... this thread made me wink! Lol

Deleted User

Sep 21, 2014 23:03

well for obvious reasons a quick message of some sort would be best (I find folks who comments on something i have written on my profile or a band I like get my attention) but I find it quite bothersome when people keep a tab on ya. For instance, I have received a few messages accusing me of not responding in a timely fashion and that can get a bit much. I may read a msg sometimes and then just find the forums interesting so I kinda postpones replying to a later time but that doesn't mean I am stuck up or whatnot.
You are definitely not that kinda guy but some can really get posy for no reason

Deleted User

Sep 21, 2014 23:03

pissy***

loki

Sep 21, 2014 23:04

I think they are idiotic. I actually had a women who studies English send me a wink, i think if someone cant even be bothered to write hello why should i be bothered with them. Yes i know i can turn them off but why should i. A friend of mine had on her profile no winks but the amount she got was stunning. People would say turn them off, she would say no i use it to see if a man has read and taken note of my profile

Deleted User

Sep 21, 2014 23:16

I personally don't like winks, but I have stated on my profile that I don't and to send a message instead, I will talk to anyone tho haha!

PetBabyAmy

Sep 21, 2014 23:16

I like a good messages and get a little put of by just one line, but will try my best to engage in a good conversation, only had the one wink and said thank you to that person who sent it. Things seem to go well for a while and then no more messages. I try not to worry about that. I think about what I am going to say to soemoen and try not to say the same thing to someone else I want to make friends with. I think most peopel find it hard to know what to say, I have nto sent any winks to anyone. I have seen in other posts why some have said they do not like winks etc. Even if they had not said that, I have respect for all things and all people, out of respect I would not send anyone a wink. Being respectful I feel to be of key importance, I very much live by that.

Deleted User

Sep 21, 2014 23:38

I hate winks. I get heaps. I see it as a way for guys to go along and send winks to heaps of people and see who responds. I ended up getting annoyed because I got so many recently and I replied to them dont send winks send a message and I got a reply of f**k you... classy!

Deleted User

Sep 22, 2014 00:10

I'm not sure if you're referring to me, Biggie. I'm a lion in that picture (note my tail in the horse's mouth)...I have been Pikachu and a zebra and a clown and a bunny. Pikachu's tail is a lightning bolt.

...but please rest assured, I'm not stalking you, you big galoob.

strawberry_pixy

Sep 23, 2014 16:51

I don't usually reply to them, they seem a bit pointless. A mail would get my attention a bit better.

DogSoldier

Sep 24, 2014 07:45

The last date site I was on I didn't even know 'winks' existed. I never got any. Shortly after I began, I got a msg from customer service telling me that my greetings & profile were SO BAD, unimaginative & juvenile that the started to call women on the phone ...randomly & of those ladies that had a computer/internet access, they would ask them if they were to HAPPEN to try out this date site ......would any of them be interested in this guy right here?......& they would send them my profile. Of the hundreds of ladies interviewed, they all said "NO......HELL NO", Then they also told the date site that just because they allowed me to stay on the date site,......these women said , "THEY AREN'T E-V-E-R joining their dumb date site," & then hung up on them. The date site notified me of all this on Friday night at 8pm on a 3-day new years eve weekend. That one guy who posts about "the problems with date sites"........he may know the answers. He is not really sick to his stomach though. just ignore that part.