I'm a goth metalhead that's very into punk rock and heavily influenced by the Visual Kei scene, how I dress depends on my mood. Romatic Goth and Glam Rock seem to be the more frequent. My overall personality is pretty chill but I've been told that my confidence sometimes comes across as self-centered and narcissistic, and that my sarcasm and sense of humor is sometimes a little more on the harsh side. It's not how I intend things to be. I'm really a nice person, I swear, but everyone is entitled to their own opinions. If you're looking for someone who will agree with everything you say or think, then I'm probably not the right person for you. I don't believe in doing that because everyone has their own feelings about things, and I think people can agree to disagree on things and still get along unless the gap is just too wide. I do speak on my beliefs and thoughts, and I like other people who do as well. My social circle is pretty small right now, which is fine, but I'm always looking to expand it, discover new music and things that I can spend my time doing.
I dress down for my job, a lot, and don't bring too many coworkers into my personal life, so it's really the only time I fit into the "social norms" of society. More recently it's been a humor that one of the girls told me I strike them as a "lesbian gothic chick." And to think she's always been one of the more oblivious ones.
If you are looking to pursue more local friends for hangouts, I'm usually down for anything if I'm not working which is honestly usually the case. Just ask and we can see what we can get figured out. If you want something more than just a friend or social buddy, there are a few things that I do ask you keep in mind about me.
I'm not looking for anything short-term, to join as a third partner, quick hookups or friends with benefits. I have nothing against anyone who lives that way, they're just not for me. I appreciate the flattery and invites, but I'm going to pass on any of them. I'm only interested in the long term relationships. Someone who will take the good with the bad as we build each other up to the best we can be, and be each other's foundation and support in the choices we make. Car rides are karaoke time, heavy on the bass, but with some good throwbacks to boy bands of the early 2000s. Can't sing? That's okay, we'll just be horrible singers together. We can watch every movie under the sun, from the gorey and cheesy horror movies to the classic Disney movies of my inner child, and marathon shows until there's nothing left to watch. Bonus points if you'll marathon every Godzilla movie with me more than once. People shouldn't be serious all the time, so we should enjoy random shenanigans while we fumble through adulthood together.
If you want to go for a relationship, I think it's only fair that I lay out my "red flags" here so that no one has their time wasted.
I don't drive, so therefore I don't have a car. I have pretty bad anxiety in cars due to being in a car accident that left the base of my spine broken for a period of time. It wasn't fun, and it isn't fun having to rely on people for rides, but I honesty don't see it changing for quite a while. It's not very high on my to-do list right now and, honestly, in this economy, owning a car right now is kind of a joke. It's understandably a frustration for all parties involved, for me as I'm not 100% independent, and for you because you would be the one doing all the driving. Some people see it as having to go out of their way for me, but it is what it is and if it's not something you're willing to sign up for, then it's probably best you don't message me.
I also work a lot. At one point in time I was working a rough 110-120 hours a week between two full-time jobs, but that was exhausting so I cut out one job and have fallen into a pretty steady rotation of 60 and 72 hours in a biweekly schedule working solid overnights at a factory. They're 12 hour shifts which means reaching me during the day can be a bit sporadic, but you're at least guaranteed daily good morning and good night messages from me. If it's day time and I'm up talking, I'm probably staying up much too late because I'm distracted by something, but I always procrastinate sleep for a good conversation.
I was raised to work for what I have and I know I can have pretty expensive taste, but at least you know I pay my own bills. I don't have roommates, I did for a while but it was rough and usually got stuck paying a majority of the bills. There were many bridges burned, and I do still struggle to trust people to be reliable when it comes to bills being paid because of it. Making enough to cover all the bills is my security blanket to knowing I'll have a roof over my head. It's something you'll have to tolerate for a while but just know I don't have any intention of working the way I am forever. I plan on slowing down once a bigger chunk of the house is paid off.
I don't have kids, and frankly, I don't think I want any. The world is on fire and I don't think throwing an innocent life into the mess is fair. If you already have kids, that's a completely different discussion to have, just know that I'm not planning on popping any out for you. This isn't anything set in stone, mind you, but it's probably not something that will be addressed for a few years at least.
What I do have are four-legged heathens who don't know the meaning of privacy, personal belongings or boundaries, and they are 100% non-negotiable. I house 8 cats and 2 dogs. All of them are rescues, minus my younger dog, and half of them are elderly. They're in their furever homes where they can bask in the sunroom all day and receive a smothering amount of love and treats. I don't plan on taking in anymore until the number drops, unless we're adding yours to the equation. Cats are always welcome, but my older dog is very iffy about other dogs. She wants friends, but other dogs scare her.
I'm a Pescetarian. I don't eat meat, but I still eat dairy and fish. Sushi is too good to even try to give it up. You eat meat? That's cool. I really don't care what kind of diet you eat as long as it's not all junk food all the time, because to be fair junk food can be great sometimes. Don't act like my diet is less healthy than yours please, I just choose to not eat some types of food just like you can choose not to eat a salad. Other people eating meat doesn't bother me, so don't let my soy and tofu eating ways bother you. It's amazing how many people actually get bothered by this. Just be warned now, you will be in charge of all the grilling and meat related cooking, I'll handle the veggies and sides. This is only because, as I can't try the food beforehand, I'll feel bad if something were to turn out not to your liking, but I will also feel bad if you force yourself to eat something that didn't taste good to you. It's just a lot easier if you do it yourself.
If you want to know more about me, my inbox is always open. I like to be an open book and love talking to people so feel free to chatter with me. My responses might be a little delayed depending on the day of the week but I do my best to keep people from waiting too long.
